Monday, April 11, 2011

update

This past week was really great. I was able to get outside with Emma and Jack. Emma has LOVED the freedom to run around, and I think the vitamin D was a bit help to all of our moods! I have to say that I didn't go completely off the grid or anything like that, but I did reduce the amount of time I spent reading blogs and writing e-mails. It was nice. But, I have realized that the computer is not the reason I am never getting anything done around here, it is a little girl named Emma :-) Not that it is a bad thing, but here I was (and the hubs was) thinking that my computer usage was keeping me from getting stuff done. But, when I actually took a step back and looked at the big picture I realized that wasn't the case.

Instead I saw someone who would spend hours cooking and playing and reading and playing and more reading, and more cooking and more playing :-) So, I'm less concerned about getting "everything" done. I think I need to pare down my expectations. I should probably remember that having an almost 3 year old (yikes!) and an 8 month old definitely should put me in the "survival" category. Bare bones! If I can get food on the table 3 times a day, on clean dishes, and have clean clothes (even if they stay in the laundry basket for a day...or three), then I am doing a good job :-) My days won't always be like this, and I really need to treasure them. It's hard to do that sometimes.

I definitely feel like Matt has an easier time playing with the kids, because he isn't thinking about how much longer the bread needs to rise, or how long does it really take to chop up all those veggies for soup later, or did I remember to put the soap in the washing machine. He just concentrates on playing. But, I need to maybe try to concentrate on playing a little bit more, and the other stuff a little bit less. Being a stay at home mama is a hard job! But definitely the most rewarding!

What about you? Whether or not you have kids, how do you find balance?

2 comments:

  1. I think you're doing a great job! I think everybody does the best they can for their family. You're so right - you have to lower your expectations and take it all in because before you know it, they'll be all grown up. Let's face it, we'll have plenty of time to clean then ;/

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  2. Play definitely is important. My mom used to have a cross stich with a famous line on it hanging in my room as a kid..something along the lines of "cleaning and scrubbing can wait til tomorrow, for babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow." I think what you're doing in cutting down on the amount of "stuff" in your surroundings also cuts down the amount of stuff to take care of. Time management is hard to do with kiddos that require flexibility but I'm sure you're on a schedule as much as possible.

    Right now the hub and I are lucky. I've added more structure to the days that I'm working but the rest of the week we have a lot of flexibility to get stuff done based on whether the weather is nice or not. ;) This won't always be the case though!!

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