There was a time when I wanted to do everything the “right” way. I still somewhat feel that way. I wanted to make sure that I had a natural child birth – I didn’t want to have a cesarean. I wanted to make sure that my kids have the best and freshest (local) food available to them. I want to be Susie Homemaker. But, over the years I have realized that I need to let go of some of those expectations.
This pregnancy has been no different.
When we found out we were pregnant, I had a very long list of things to do. In fact, when my mother’s helper was here this past summer I looked at that list every time she was here (and several times she was not) realizing that my list was not getting checked off.
At the end of the summer, when I knew my mother’s helper was going back to school, I panicked a bit. I hadn’t accomplished all that I had planned on accomplishing. What was I going to do now? I was starting our homeschool year early, and had not even considered the time after the baby was born, only the time leading up to the new baby.
I think that oftentimes we try to do it all. Mothers seem to have an immense amount of pressure on them. Whether we work outside the home, and try to juggle raising our children, housework, cooking while working full time, or you are at home with your kids all day, attempting to homeschool, cook everything from scratch, make sure that you are keeping everything clean…it is enough to make your head spin.
We cannot do it all. Instead we have to let go of some expectations.
Some of the expectations I will be letting go of in the first days (weeks? months?) of a new baby are the meals I make. I try hard to make everything from scratch, but I do not think that will be realistic with a new baby (although I do wonder how mamas did it 150 years ago…). Instead I will rely a bit more on convenience, knowing that a happy mama is going to be a much better person to be around than a stressed out mama.
The state of my house will be another “letting go” moment. And if you are coming here expecting to see a clean house, you will be sorely disappointed. Actually, I think I gave up on a clean house 2 babies ago J If we have *some* clean dishes and clean clothes and clean diapers, I will be a happy person. If there are toys strewn about the house? Just realize that we are here all.day.long. and I am not crawling around after my kids to pick things up!
What expectations do you let go of when you have a new baby?