It was interesting to see that this book seems to line up with the e-course I am taking right now – Upstream. As soon as I read that the authors recommend taking the same personality tests that I was already in the middle of, I knew it was divine intervention that I should be reading this book right now.
Mothering from Scratch, by Melinda Means and Kathy Helgemo is a book about putting away all the preconceived notions of mothering that you have heard all your life, and finding the best parenting style for you.
When I first received this book, I thought that it would be more about “from scratch living,” but it is not.
The authors take you on a journey through their many adventures as being mamas. They break down the mistakes that they made, and the different ideas that they had going into motherhood that were not working for them. Instead of feeling like failures, they vowed to change it.
Change. What an interesting idea! I think that often times we try to fit ourselves into a box of what we think is the “right” way to go about doing something, instead of realizing there are many “right” ways, but it depends on you as a person as to which one you should follow; Means and Helgemo go into great detail about this in the book.
They take us on not only their journey, but ours as well. Each chapter has little tidbits of information that you can change right now, and at the end of each chapter there are action steps and questions to really get you to understand what your mothering style should be.
I really like that it is unapologetic in the fact that we are all different, and will approach motherhood differently. What works for someone else may not work for me, and that is OK! They talk a lot about how your personality type is going to influence what you do as a mama. Some mamas love staying at home (that would be me!) while others need to constantly be on the go. Does that mean that I am doing it wrong? No, it means that I am doing what works best for me and my family.
I enjoyed this book immensely, and it seemed to come right at the perfect time, since I was already concentrating on my personality and getting to know “me” better. I definitely recommend it, even if you are comfortable in your mothering style, it gives some wonderful tips on self-care and finding mentors. It is all around wonderful book!
Do you try to fit yourself into a specific mothering type? Are you worried you are getting it all wrong based on what you observe in others?
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Bethany House in order to facilitate this review. All opinions are my own.