For a very long time after having my first child, I didn’t think so much about me. I was so consumed with my daughter, that I didn’t even know how to deal with it. Out went my normal routines of getting up, getting dressed, going to work, rinse and repeat. Now, every day was different.
When we added number two, the personal time seemed to completely disappear. Any idea of who I was seemed to be put on the back burner, and now I was “mom;” needed by everyone.
It is a somewhat heady feeling, knowing that you are the provider. But, after a while, you can forget you completely, and be only the provider.
Perhaps it is just me.
However, if you are like me, putting everyone before yourself, then I might be able to encourage you to put yourself first some of the time.
Why is self-care important?
I think there are many reasons, but it mainly comes down to making sure you are healthy, for yourself, for your family.
Oftentimes we can go go go, this isn’t specific to mamas either, and we forget that we need to take a break and replenish ourselves. We need to take the time to center ourselves on our goals, to know what our plan is, but to not work so hard at staying on task that we miss the right now.
Stress is a huge issue in our world today. Everyone is stressed about something, their job, their family, finances. All that stress is made much worse when we stop taking time for ourselves, when we don’t eat the proper foods to nourish our bodies, when we don’t take time for meditation and stillness, time in nature.
Why is self-care important? Because it provides us with a sense of who we really are instead of being lost in our roles. It helps us to move in the right and proper direction, not always seamlessly, but in a calmer manner, knowing our limits.
Do you always put others needs before your own? Why?
I know that I need to make sure my family is taken care of.
With three little ones that need me for most things, I know that the urgent will often come up, but I still need to make time for myself, to recharge.
What is one thing that you have been putting off doing because you “don’t have the time”? Can you make time today to do that one thing?