Tuesday, October 11, 2016

{31 Days} Balancing Kids Activities with the Need for Family Time

This is a really hard topic for me to talk about.  I have major opinions on both sides of this, and they don’t seem to meet anywhere close to the middle.  I think that kids’ activities are incredibly important, but I also think that there are other ways to get kids involved in life without participating in sports or extracurricular activities.


On the one hand, I love that my kids love sports.  I did not like sports growing up, and gravitated towards all things music instead.  But, I didn’t actually get fully involved with music outside of school until high school (if you don’t count piano lessons).

Both of my kids really enjoy sports, and my husband was into sports when he was in school as well, so we wanted to give them the opportunity to be involved.  Of course, I knew that the time commitment would be considerable as soon as Jack and Emma were both in sports, but I persevered!


This year will be the first year that we will have competing schedules between my older two kids and their sports, and I am not looking forward to it.  I am still holding out hope that one of the kids decides not to participate in basketball so that the schedule isn’t quite as hectic. 

That is the other side of the coin for me.

I don’t like the idea of my family being scattered for a few months out of the year, racing from one practice to the next, and not really having the ability to all sit down together as a family more than one or two nights a week.

How do you balance that?

How do you allow your kids to become involved in the activities they want without giving up that family time? 

Balancing Kids Activities with the Need for Family Time

Honestly, I do not know.  It is something that we are working on though.  Is there a way that we can have the kids involved and still be able to carve out enough family time?  Or do we continue on this path and understand that for specific seasons we will not be together very often.

Considering my kids are all 8 and under at this moment, it seems a little silly to think about it in such a way, but surprisingly this is the way it works.  I’m not sure I want to give up all of these years in order to run around to different activities for one child.

I have been digging into the archives over at FIMBY and found this post I read a long while ago about choosing a family activity overteam sports.  That has really resonated with me recently.

It is something that I am definitely willing to do, although with Lucy being not even two yet, it becomes a little difficult to find an activity we can all participate in together.  I also know that my husband really values the team sports aspect.

I’m not sure this post will help anyone with overcoming overwhelm this month, but it is something that I tend to war with myself about frequently.  Especially because our busy season of basketball starts relatively soon.  That is when everything gets a lot more complicated, and very much overwhelming.


How do you balance kids’ activities with need for family time?  Do you have certain seasons where that isn’t possible?

18 comments:

  1. For us, we balance the kids activities by participating with them. I know that isn't possible for everyone, but it works for us. My Husband gets in the pool with my son at swim lessons!

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  2. It can be so hard to balance everything! My oldest only has one hour of gymnastics a week, but that day seems so much more hectic than the others. Keeping the little one entertained at the gym is a struggle!

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  3. That is hard. We made sure we all showed up, gave support, celebrated win or lose, and had dinner together. Those were the hard and fast rules.

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  4. This is hard for most families. My husband and I both work from home, so it's a bit easy for us to balance things.

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  5. It does get tough to balance it all. It's even tougher when you have multiple kids with multiple schedules you have to keep up on PLUS your own. Thankfully, this year my littles play on the same team and my husband is an assistant coach, so that helps.
    Wishing you all the best!
    XO
    www.mrsaokaworkinprogress.com

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  6. Balancing is hard, even if we work at home! Actually, it requires us more balancing!

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  7. I love that you are talking about this subject! With 6 kids, I try to be really intentional about choosing activities!

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  8. Great post and all good reminders! My kids are busy, busy, busy right now...all good things, but we make sure to make Friday nights our family time :-)

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  9. Balancing is so hard for families. We found cutting back on after school lessons and activities helped give our kids time to be just kids.

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  10. I think it is so hard when you throw in a few activities or even one for each kid. Our oldest is in dance and swim lessons. She takes dance at school and swims that afternoon. I put them on the same day so only one day would feel crazy.

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  11. I know my family dealt with this when I was growing up. With 4 kids all in different activities it can get crazy! We did do one year where my brothers joined one sport and me and my sister joined one. It was fun for a little while but not sustainable lol!

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  12. I am having such a hard time balancing everything lately! It's been really difficult. My husband just went back to working nights so I have no idea how I am going to make this work!

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  13. I agree - family time is so important to schedule out. And when kiddos are busy with their activities it really gets difficult.

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  14. I agree, it can be really hard to give up family and personal time in order to make extracurricular activities work. We didn't show up to a tennis class this weekend, and it was a huge relief for all of us.

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  15. You can't skimp on family time. It can be hard to find the balance. Instead of doing several extra curricular activities, my son did one or 2 at a time so that we had some time during the week to spend together.

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  16. I am not a parent yet but I am sure the overwhelm feeling is a daily challenge. I am so glad you made a post to make it a little easier and hopefully help some families out here.

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  17. Balancing between the two things means that you do them together. Balancing overwhelming things is a constant in my life.

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  18. We always try to do things together as a family to make time with the kids. This is a great insight into feeling overwhelmed though. We have all been there.

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