This is a really hard topic for me to talk about. I have major opinions on both sides of this, and they don’t seem to meet anywhere close to the middle. I think that kids’ activities are incredibly important, but I also think that there are other ways to get kids involved in life without participating in sports or extracurricular activities.
On the one hand, I love that my kids love sports. I did not like sports growing up, and gravitated towards all things music instead. But, I didn’t actually get fully involved with music outside of school until high school (if you don’t count piano lessons).
Both of my kids really enjoy sports, and my husband was into sports when he was in school as well, so we wanted to give them the opportunity to be involved. Of course, I knew that the time commitment would be considerable as soon as Jack and Emma were both in sports, but I persevered!
This year will be the first year that we will have competing schedules between my older two kids and their sports, and I am not looking forward to it. I am still holding out hope that one of the kids decides not to participate in basketball so that the schedule isn’t quite as hectic.
That is the other side of the coin for me.
I don’t like the idea of my family being scattered for a few months out of the year, racing from one practice to the next, and not really having the ability to all sit down together as a family more than one or two nights a week.
How do you balance that?
How do you allow your kids to become involved in the activities they want without giving up that family time?
Honestly, I do not know. It is something that we are working on though. Is there a way that we can have the kids involved and still be able to carve out enough family time? Or do we continue on this path and understand that for specific seasons we will not be together very often.
Considering my kids are all 8 and under at this moment, it seems a little silly to think about it in such a way, but surprisingly this is the way it works. I’m not sure I want to give up all of these years in order to run around to different activities for one child.
I have been digging into the archives over at FIMBY and found this post I read a long while ago about choosing a family activity overteam sports. That has really resonated with me recently.
It is something that I am definitely willing to do, although with Lucy being not even two yet, it becomes a little difficult to find an activity we can all participate in together. I also know that my husband really values the team sports aspect.
I’m not sure this post will help anyone with overcoming overwhelm this month, but it is something that I tend to war with myself about frequently. Especially because our busy season of basketball starts relatively soon. That is when everything gets a lot more complicated, and very much overwhelming.
How do you balance kids’ activities with need for family time? Do you have certain seasons where that isn’t possible?