Monday, October 24, 2016

{31 Days} Expectation vs. Reality

Have you seen the memes out there about expectation vs. reality?  You go to a restaurant and order one thing, but then you get served a meal that is looking far less appealing than the picture on the menu.  It always makes me laugh when I see those types of pictures out on the internet.

It got me thinking though, how often am I trying to have my expectation play out exactly, but it is not realistic?


When I started this {31 Days} series, I expected that I would finish it.  Oh, yes, of course I am writing about being overwhelmed, and the fact that I did not prepare posts ahead of time to complete this series; it would all be a day by day written journal, very old school blogger style.

Yet, here we are on Day 24 and I haven’t posted since Day 12…

I think that often as bloggers we get into the habit of giving advice, but forget to give the story behind that advice.  While I would love to share with you ways that you can successfully overcome overwhelming feelings, that isn’t necessarily what you will get from me.  Instead I am trying to share with you what I am going through, and perhaps you can find some encouragement in the fact that I do not have it all figured out.


While it would be easy to throw in the towel at this point, and in fact it may seem to some that I have, I decided that this is such an important topic that I want to keep trying.

Why is it that our expectations can differ so much from reality?  What are we using as a measure?  

28 comments:

  1. I think it's a great lesson: to keep trying, give it your best shot, adjust your sails and keep sailing!

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  2. This makes me think of 500 Days of Summer. The problem is with expectations is that we place them too high and the problem with reality is it can make us want to give up. Never give up and just keep trying.

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  3. Expectations are better to be thought of as goals, not realistic occurances! I think it helps to stay positive and remember you are always reaching for betterment; no one is perfect!

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  4. Loving hearing the story behind anything. And you're right about giving out advice... but not always feeling always put together. I feel the same way.

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  5. I have high expectations for myself and in reality life happens and I can't keep up. It happened, but we are all human!

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  6. This happens to me all the time. I know why though... I fail to plan properly. It is through the planning process that I learn I have bitten off more than I can chew. I learn to step back and take notice and then I can properly manage what I want to do.

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  7. My husband always tells me that I need to be more realistic maybe it would help me not be so overwhelmed.

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  8. We always try to put our expectations too high that we end up overwhelmed most of the time. I always have to remind myself not to do this.

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  9. Putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves can definitely lead to overwhelm and even keep us from making progress on what we are working on, but at least you are aware of it and that is the first step.

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  10. Realty can be hard to understand when you are a dreamer, like me. It's so unsettling when reality isn't what you wanted!

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  11. Perception is reality, right? We always want the best, whether that's the best food, income, home, etc. I think that's what makes us so unique and ambitious we just have to find a happy medium

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  12. I hate expecting especially when it comes to other people. It's okay to expect something from myself because it won't be that disappointing if I don't meet my expectations. It can be overwhelming too! I'm glad you decided to keep going.

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  13. I love that you were honest here! This time of year can get SO busy, especially for a blogger - I'm excited that you're continuing on!

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  14. I generally don't expect anything from anyone or anything anymore. I used to be such a dreamer and such but it got to be too disappointing I think my expectations vs reality are pretty close now! - jEANINE

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  15. I have to be careful of my expectations. I want to do what I think everyone else expects of me. I feel like that has been my measure of success for so long.

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  16. I enjoyed reading this such a good information. I always want to give my best for work but It's so hard to complete my task on time especially I have 2 toddlers while working at home

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  17. I always go above and beyond. It is a both a blessing and a curse. It usually means I over book myself and get extremely stressed. but I like to make sure I at least follow through with what I am supposed to do.

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  18. Burnout is so hard. It's so easy to say yes, set challenges for ourselves, etc. (I say this because I am oh, so guilty of it.) We have to take time to step back, though, even if that means saying no to things occasionally. I'm learning this along with you, so I'll try if you do!

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  19. People often have unrealistic expectations. There is nothing inherently bad with that, but it does set us up for disappointment and heart-break.

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  20. Ahhhh expectations kill everything!!! I have learned over the years to not relay too much on expectations. If we do we will always be disappointed.

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  21. The expectation vs reality meme was created from 500 days of Summer. Great movie but one of the most real depictions of what humans go through whats in our head doesnt translate into real life at all sometimes.

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  22. I always set way too high unrealistic expectations of myself and then get disappointed when I don't meet them :(

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  23. Setting realistic goals for yourself is so important! I find that when I don't have realistic goals I set myself up to fail!

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  24. I think being realistic with expectations is important. I'm very guilty of not doing this, but then I let myself down a lot.

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  25. I used to have unrealistic expectations, but I have learned to set more realistic goals over the years. I'm less disappointed that way!

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  26. I think our expectations often differ from reality because we set unrealistic goals for ourselves. We need to focus on what is possible and do the best that we can.

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  27. It's amazing how often expectation and reality just don't match up. I'm trying to be more realistic in my expectations but it still doesn't always work out.

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  28. I always make sure to make small goals each month, that way they are more realistic and easier to crush. One step at a time and persistence for sure :)

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