Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Why I Stopped Knitting plus an Amazing Book!

I honestly don’t know what happened this year.  I started out the year ready to get so many knitting projects finished, and I was excited.  But, then the baby became a teething running toddler, and finding pockets of time to knit became a thing of the past.

I turned around and it was November.

How the heck did that happen?!  But, here we are, in November, and I am realizing the Christmas knitting that I diligently planned out in May (slow knitter here!) was not coming along as I wanted.  I had a couple of productive weeks where I finished up a few projects that were sitting around, and then I just stopped. 

Hello, my name is Heather and I haven’t knit a stitch in months.

Incredibly sad, but apparently it is the stage I am in right now.  

How I lost and then found my love of knitting and an amazing book recommendation

All that to say, I started knitting a new hat this week.  I use this pattern because it is free, and really easy to alter.  It is just a basic rib pattern, and works really well in the winter for my kids.

I think that my biggest problem is that I think I have more time than I actually have.  Even though we all have 168 hours in a week, I try and convince myself I actually have 186…and every time it doesn’t work out...surprise surprise.

While I would love to say that I am going to have some amazing hand knit items for Christmas this year, I think that it might be time to step back and not put that pressure on myself.

I started knitting again right after I got married, and it was so relaxing and fun.  I didn’t have children and I had all the time in the world.  Now, after three children, I still love to knit, but I don’t find as much time, or I don’t prioritize as much time, to knitting as I once did, yet I still write out knitting goals like I do have all the time in the world. 

It made me lose my love of knitting a little bit.

Instead of being happy about the free moments I was able to do a couple rows here and there, I became sad and angry that I couldn’t get more done.  I want to get back to that happiness of knitting, because it is something that I dearly love.  And so I had to give myself permission to not knit for a while, and to not feel bad about it.

How I lost and then found my love of knitting and an amazing book recommendation

I would still love to make all three of my kiddos hats this fall, and that probably is manageable, but it won’t be manageable if I am also trying to knit scarves, mitts and toys for Christmas as well. 

As for my reading, well reading is a bit easier for me to have time for – I still spend a good deal of time nursing, and cuddling children, and reading on the kindle app on my phone is an amazing technological advance that I will continue to take full advantage of.

How I lost and then found my love of knitting and an amazing book recommendation

The book that I am devouring right now is Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist.  It is exactly what my soul needs right now, and I can’t wait to finish the book.  I thought from the title that maybe it wouldn’t work for me – I have long discovered I cannot do anything perfectly; but the book starts out talking about work, and how we can throw ourselves so much into work that we tend to then overcompensate in other areas of our life. 

I can definitely relate to this.  I have been putting so much time and energy into my blog, something that I can see results from, that I often will spend so much time working on it, that I can’t see everything else right in front of me.  I keep thinking “I just need to do x, and then I can relax.”  The problem is that x keeps changing, and relaxing never seems to happen.

I am only about 25% of the way into the book, but so far I am nodding my head every time I read a new paragraph.  Definitely recommend it!


What are you working on creatively?  Do you have any amazing book recommendations?

33 comments:

  1. I read the his book recently and it s a good nurture for my weary soul. I find it hard to be content with the knitting, trying not to focus on the finish but instead on the process. Love that yarn color.

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  2. I'm on the fence about reading this book - look forward to your review!

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  3. I understand your feelings around knitting, I have had them too. When this happens I have to remind myself to stay in the present and then all my knitting becomes relaxing and joyful.

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  4. You know what, so you didn't knit as much as you wanted to this year. But you were present in your children's life. That's important too! Next year maybe you'll knit more. I also like thinking I have 186 hours in a week when I know there's 168

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  5. Oh goodness I can relate to all of this. I've been putting in a lot of time on my blog and crocheting enough to actually make a few bucks. But I need not forget my family. Really need to set up some time limits on things. THanks for the book suggestion. Sounds like a good one. Did you read Simply Tuesday by Emily Freeman. Excellent!

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  6. Your knitting is pretty. It reminds me of yarn I used for a baby sock this year. I still haven't made the second sock! Ahem.

    I read Present Over Perfect at the end of summer. I enjoyed it. I like Shauna's style. I related to some things and some things I didn't but I enjoyed it all and appreciated her sharing her experiences.

    YES!!! I want to act like I have 186 hours, too. And though I get the saying that you make time to do what you want, I don't agree with it either. I have a lot of things I really do want to do and I really don't have time for all of them AND do things that HAVE to be done. {dirty dishes and laundry} ;)

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  7. I loved knitting when I was in high school, but it is really tough to find time as an adult!

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  8. Creatively I'm working on not much right now... but I hope to soon! I am so overwhelmed with work at the moment that its taking all of my energy. Soon - hope to do more fun/creative things!

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  9. I love Shauna's books! My favorite is Bittersweet but I loved Cold Tangerines, too. I have Savor right by my bedside!

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  10. I feel the same way about reading. I used to finish 3 books a week, but with two active boys now, I barely get finished with one a month! I want to take a look at the book you are reading. I need to slow down and not work so hard on my online business - enjoy other things!

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  11. My husband laughs at me when I say I want to start something new because he knows I'll be excited about it for a few weeks and then something new or different will happen with the kids (like you said...teething - the worst because you just don't have time to yourself) and then I never pick up my new habit again. Maybe when the kids are in college I'll finally get to those scrapbooks I've been meaning to do.

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  12. I do embroidery and I understand how you feel. I had to stop for a long time and it was only recently that I decided to sew again. I am very excited to start this new project, a table runner.

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  13. I feel like the internet and social media are eating up too much of my time these days, so I rarely do anything creative that is not blog related... It's a bit sad! I used to scrapbook a lot but I don't find the time or energy to do it these days.

    Beaumiroir

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  14. sounds like an interesting book. It's tricky juggling everything at times and I'm definitely one of those people who can make knitting into a chore. So silly as it's meant to be enjoyable and fun. I think that was part of the reason I took a step back from blogging and knitting over the Summer

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  15. It looks like a fascinating book! Knitting is my habit before when I was a teen. And I'm thinking to go again with knitting to make as my business too.

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  16. pretty knitting! I lost my mojo over the summer when it came to knitting but now since the weather has turned I am once more enthusiastic!!

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  17. I am so jealous of people who can knit! It is so hard to keep up with projects once babies turn into active little people!

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  18. I have tried so hard to learn to knit and I am awful at it! I am much better at reading :) I will have to try that book!

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  19. I think this applies to any hobby! I stopped blogging for a while because I started to put so much pressure on myself to post several times a week and it just wasn't sustainable! Especially with a teething toddler! (I feel ya there!)

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  20. Can't wait to read your book review! Thanks for sharing your thoughts about quitting knitting!

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  21. Ahhhhh I so need to get back into reading!!!! I was on such a roll all summer and then school started back up for my kiddo and idk... i just stopped

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  22. Making time for ourselves is so hard and I want to make reading a priority! It should not take months for me to finish a book. Too much phone time!

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  23. Oooh I love knitting! It's so relaxing! Not to mention I love this book! I actually saw her at the She Speaks conference last year and she was talking about it.

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  24. I haven't Knitted in a really long time, since high school. I really don't have the time for that now I most rather read a good book on the train on my way to work or on my way back home which is the only free time I have.

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  25. I cannot knit but I can crochet and I LOVE that. But because I am taking 18 credit hours and blogging full time, I cannot do it right now!

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  26. You were there for your children and able to enjoy those special moments, and even though you didn't knit as much as you wanted you still did great!

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  27. My mother used to knit all my sweaters for me as a kid! You have to find a way to combine knitting and reading, maybe audio books?!

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  28. I love knitting but I've always been terrible at it. You seem to really have a talent for knitting.

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  29. My mom loves to knit but she also took a break. There never seems to be enough time in the week for everything!

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  30. I think I need this book. I'm the same. I always need to do 'just one more thing' but I do the one thing and then think of something else!

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  31. Ive always admire people who can knit. Dont feel bad knitting I heard is super time consuming so just make time when you can again.

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  32. Right now I just got finished reading Meg: Night Stalkers. I love my Sci Fi, and love Steve Alten's Meg Series. As for crafts? Nothing, as I am missing that gene in my body.

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  33. I love this post. Life happens and sometimes we have to put off some of the things that we love....but it doesn't mean that we won't get back to it. The yarn color there is gorgeous. I actually have been thinking a lot about how in grad school I knitted scarves and took up additional donations from other knitters that I then delivered to a local youth homeless non-profit here in Portland. I haven't knitted much in years, but it's something that is hanging out on my shelf. :) That book sounds great. Did you finish it? What's the final review? And I love that you're doing Tsh's e course. I hope you post a reflection based on what you got out of it. I also have thought about how during that same time period I was so into minimalism and limited consumption. While I'm still into limited consumption it's so interesting to reflect upon stages of life and how current situations make it challenging to always be where you want to be. I just started cleaning out my closest and am looking up the addresses on where to send my old running shoes and toothbrushes to be recycled :) Sending you a big hug lady!

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