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Margin – this is my word of the year – and I thought it was about time to revisit it, especially since I had been absent from this space for a few weeks. You might say that I needed a little more margin in my life.
Starting this year with the word margin was a no-brainer, but actually putting this little word into practice and into my schedule has been a lot more difficult than I originally expected.
It is easy to let margin slip away in the busy day-to-day – I did not mean that to rhyme, but we will just go with it – and instead of scheduling in that white space, I saw the white space and decided to fill it with other things.
This past week when we were at our friends’ home celebrating Emma’s birthday, we were discussing how guilty we can feel when we say no to people who have asked for our help in doing something.
It reminded me of a quote from Lysa Terkeurst in her book TheBest Yes:
“Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is worth the less.”
That really got me thinking about how I have talked about sayingyes in the past.
My purpose for choosing margin as my word for this year was to give myself more room to say yes to what matters to me the most. I don’t want to tell someone yes when I don’t really mean yes, because that means that I am saying no to something else, something important to me.
However, I also realize that we can’t all just live in lala land and not have any responsibilities, and only do the fun and entertaining things. But, I have noticed that when I overcommit myself to outside obligations (that is the key word), I tend to rush around with chores and other essential parts of my daily life, and instead constantly say no when my kids want to play a game of Nintendo Monopoly (longest.game.ever) or edit a video with them, or sit and write a letter with my oldest.
The past few weeks of not blogging has reminded me of how much I want and need to fit in writing time for myself in the midst of spending time with my kids, planning a new homeschool year, and all the normal day-to-day that is required of us.
What this means is that I need to be selective when I say yes to anything outside my immediate family.
Spending some time contemplating margin in the midst of several rainy weeks in spring is not what I expected to be doing. I honestly thought that by now margin would be easy to come by, and it would be natural for me to cut out the unnecessary parts of my schedule, but that has not been the case.
As we move forward through spring, and into the summer, I need to be aware of this. Taking a step back and re-evaluating the time I put into other projects and other people outside of my family.
On Friday I will be talking about some tools that I will be using to work through some of this struggle going into the summer, and I hope you will join me back here then!
Do you easily fall back into old routines and bad habits that you thought would be easy to correct?