31 Days of Finding Freedom in Simplicity - Values

Last week we spent a good amount of time trying to figure out why we find freedom in simplicity – and also how to manage decisions based on what is important to our family.  Today I want to expand a bit on our values, and what that means for our everyday lives.

When you look at your normal day to day, what do you see as the main components?  It could be a number of things.  For me, I see my job as a wife and mom – a keeper of my home, my job as a homeschooler, and my job as a writer and content creator. 

Each of these three jobs is incredibly important to me.  They are all jobs that I have been lucky enough to choose on my own.  I was not forced into any of them, and I do them because I want to.  However, as in most parts of life, there is definitely a pull for what is most important.

When you think about what is most important, you can typically go to your personal or family mission statement and make a decision based on what you have written there.  But, what happens when it is all important?  You have removed the urgent from your life, and instead you are working with a finite amount of time to do the most important items in your mind.

What happens?  Well, an awful lot of stress ensues.

You know that what you are doing is important, and all of these items are part of your big picture, but how do you prioritize and get it all done?

The easy answer – you can’t get it all done.

The much longer and difficult answer is that you again have to stop and then re-evaluate.

It is easy to get swept up in the everyday needs of life.  Last fall I was so overwhelmed, and honestly that feeling did not subside until recently.  I thought that I had it all figured out.  I had found a great rhythm for my family.  I was getting my extroverted daughter into a lot of classes, which I thought she needed to thrive (only to find out I may have gone a bit overboard).  I started to make time for friends again in my own life (being an introvert with three littles at home all day every day makes wanting to be social not much of an option).  I was quickly advancing in my content creation. 

It was all too much of course, and instead of thriving as a family, we kind of crashed and burned.  Realizing that my oldest, while very social, perhaps didn’t need to be involved in so many activities, and really only wanted to have her public school friends over more often than we had been able to do during the school year.

Even though all of these things were important, and they were measured against our family mission statement, they started pulling us with the current.  Instead of being actively involved in the everyday, we would go through the motions of trying to get to the next thing, wondering when we would get home and get a break.

Have you ever felt that way?  The decisions that you had made for you or your family start to sweep you away on path you weren’t expecting?

When you start to reevaluate, it can either show you that for this season you are going to be busy (we all have busy seasons), or you may realize that you can make some small changes to come back to the path that you originally set out on, instead of falling into the current and being dragged kicking and screaming – maybe that was just me that happened to…

If you look at your values, and you see that family time is really important to you, but your kids are involved in several activities each week that pull your family apart, is there a way to let go of one or more of those activities so that you can be together for dinner several days each week?  Is there an activity that your entire family can participate in instead of individual activities?

I love how Renee’s family has made it a priority to do a family sport, rather than individual sports mainly because she wants to be with her family, altogether. 

Now, I’m not much of a sports person at all, I prefer reading to running, but finding an activity that we could do as a whole family is something that I have wanted to try for a while.  What is holding me back?  Fear mainly.  Fear that my kids will not be happy unless they are in organized activities.  I think more often they just enjoy doing the activity, and are less concerned with the way it happens.

If you think about only the things you really want to do – what would they be? 

Would you want to write?  Would you want to read?  Would you want to be outside in nature?  Would you want to cook your food from scratch?  Would you want to travel the country in an RV, or move into a tiny house?  What do you value most?

What is holding you back from doing that?

We have these dreams and ideas, but no real way to accomplish them.  Instead of working towards our dreams, we stay in the monotony of the everyday, doing what we think is necessary to fit in with life, to be normal, to make sure that we aren’t screwing up our kids.

What if instead of working on that ground level, you started to look up more?  Take steps towards reaching those seemingly unreachable goals.  Would that change how you feel about the decisions you do need to make, if you start looking at your dreams not just as dreams, but as what your life will be in x amount of time?

What is holding you back from living that set of values, and reaching your dreams?

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