talked about how sometimes setting goals can hold you back from reaching your
dreams. I’m sure that some of you
thought I might be crazy. But, honestly,
when we set goals, we sometimes set the bar a little too low because we are
afraid of failure, and those big dreams we have seem so far out of reach.
process of reaching your dreams; I just wanted you to start dreaming first.
goals. It needs to be Specific,
Manageable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time Bound.
the term that is used, but Realistic works just as well here. Realistic.
to be achieved, will not be completely realistic. This is the main reason I wanted us to think
about our big picture dreams yesterday, without “realistic” holding us
yourself. Is this something you could
really do? It doesn’t seem very
realistic to live off the grid, it doesn’t seem realistic to not involve the
kids in a lot of extracurricular activities and instead do one activity
together as a family, it isn’t realistic to live in a small house with the
number of kids you have, it isn’t realistic to not take out a car loan, or not
use credit cards.
have been talking about it a lot over the past several days. There are things; finances, possessions,
commitments, relationships, that are holding you back. How can you change your thinking in order to
accomplish these dreams and goals?
that it can take a long time – the T part of the SMART goal.
immediately. If I make a decision, I
want the finished result as soon as the decision is made. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work this
way. In fact, it rarely works this way. What about you?
because of the instant nature of our lives today. If you want to watch TV, you turn on the TV,
if you are bored there is the internet, binging something on Netflix, an iPhone
that has a constant source of game apps that you can mindlessly play (I am a
big fan of Solitaire – geek I know!).
You don’t have to wait for much of anything these days, and that has
caused a lot of us (me included) to think that as soon as we decide on
something it should happen. And when it
doesn’t immediately happen we can begin to get discouraged.
reach our dreams?
break it down into smaller pieces. Your
dream is going to be this huge, almost unattainable, pie and the sky notion,
but when you sit down with that dream, you need to make it into smaller pieces
so that you can start to reach that dream.
family for a year. Awesome dream – it is
something I would love to do. However,
you have debt. Or your job doesn’t allow
you to work remotely. Or maybe you are
so involved in your community that if you left for a year you feel like
everything would completely fall apart (this isn’t the case, people are
surprisingly resilient when it comes to change). Pick one of those things, and break it down
even further to accomplish that one goal – become debt free.
y. If you want to do y then you need to
do z, and so on – although you might want to start earlier in the alphabet!
made a list of smaller steps to actually get to that big picture dream, then you
are ready to make your SMART goals.
start of a goal. Some of these smaller
steps might have multiple goals attached to them. If being debt free is one of your smaller
steps, you are going to need to break that down even further. “I will pay off x by such and such a date by
working an extra job, making my lunch at home, by not buying coffee every day
you want out of life, unless you begin to proactively break down that dream
into manageable steps with goals attached, it will continue to be way down the
line, always just out of reach.
you look at your big picture dream, are you able to work backwards to see some
of the smaller steps necessary to make that dream a reality?