I certainly do. What does your all include? Mine means making meals from scratch, homeschooling my littles, trying to produce enough food on our little quarter acre for at least one season of the year, paying off student loans, reading reading and more reading. I would love to take a holistic health class, learn more about using herbs as healers. There are so many things I want to dive into learning now, I wish I had this drive when I was in college 🙂 My all list is never ending.
How do you prioritize when you feel like everything is important? I’m not going to have some in depth answer for you, because I have no idea. I am slowly trying to work at each piece a little at a time. I guess that is all I can hope for. I don’t quite understand why it seems so difficult now to do what people always did hundreds of years ago. What is different now?
Well, everything is different. There are a lot more distractions. I’m sure that the amount of time I take to check my e-mail throughout the day would be enough time for me to at least knead a couple loaves of bread and cook beans for the week. I can certainly sit down and read a book during the kids rest time, or after everyone is asleep (which I frequently do – who really needs to sleep when there is a good book to be read?!).
I think part of the problem is the lack of community now. Not that I am good about community. Our little neighborhood has a great group of people, but I am such an introvert, I prefer to keep to myself. I want my privacy and to not feel like I am in a box – which I sometimes do. I can’t go outside without the neighbors making conversation. Some call that nice, I just want to go weed in my pajamas without having to talk to someone!
Community is an integral part of life though, you can’t do everything yourself. I think that sometimes I hope that I can, but I know it is impossible. But way back when, family was your community. Everyone lived close together, you didn’t have to worry about traveling out of state to see your very cool sisters-in-law, they just lived two houses over. I think that when you have family around, it is easier. You aren’t as concerned about making some sort of impression, you just are, and your family just accepts you. Well, I’m sure they don’t always accept you, but my family seems to still be talking to me even though I am the crazy one 🙂
I think when your family isn’t around and you then have to rely on neighbors, and your community, well, it is difficult to put yourself out there. Fear of rejection. Fear of funny looks. Fear of people talking behind your back. Yes, it is all there, at least for me! How do I balance the fear and the need for community? I would love suggestions. I guess you just need to start, then everything else comes along.
I see our neighbors, who dug up about a third of an acre last fall and then turned again in early spring. He planned to plant a huge garden. Then there was a death in the family, and he has only planted about 12 tomato plants in that entire space. Why didn’t I offer to throw some seeds in the ground. Obviously I couldn’t have planted the entire space – I can barely weed my 20×20 garden 🙂 But, it would have been something. Maybe I would have had a bit more space to plant some things that I can’t plant in my small space, and could have given the neighbor half of the produce. When we need help building something, or trying to get wood from the lumber yard into our little yaris, maybe we could trade some time helping another neighbor with his shed in return for use of his truck for 30 minutes.
I will continue to plug along though. Trying to manage my time better so that I can fit in all that I want. Perhaps I will sleep a little bit less…ok a lot less…and really work on these things. It is taking that first step that is difficult for me. Do you want to do it all? Do you try to? How is your community?
I’m linking up at the Hip Homeschool Hop