this year. But what is white space? White space is that margin in your day, your breathing room.
I know that probably sounds
funny, why would you want to create white space in your day, but I realized
during my year of action last year
that I need that white space in order to be present in my life. I can’t continue to fill it up when I see an
used to saying yes, no matter how much I actually wanted to say no. I would say yes to time commitments that
didn’t make sense for our family, and I would say yes to toys that I knew I
didn’t really want in our home.
life, and I think that was partly because I had a new little baby to take care
of, and it is easy to say no when you have a baby. Of course, that didn’t really create white
space in my life, I had an infant; there is no such thing as white space with
space with a lot of activities.
Activities for me, I wanted to be more involved in our community, so I
started to be more involved. Matt and I
wanted the kids in activities, so we enrolled them in more than we normally
would. I was bending over backwards to
build up the blog, and that obviously takes an insane amount of time.
holidays, and our long homeschool break. I
had let all of the white space fill up again, and that was not healthy,
especially as an introvert who needs that quiet and alone time to recharge.
do, we didn’t do our big Christmas Eve open house like we normally do. I didn’t blog like I normally do.
crafts, I still cleaned my house (for the most part) and tried to read; I still prepared meals.
with the tasks that need to be completed.
this “break” my days were still full, and it made me wonder how I had been able
to keep up with all the other stuff when my days were already so full.
calendar. When there is white space in
my calendar I have room to breathe, room to do spur of the moment activities,
and room to recharge.
choose to do other activities on a whim.
Perhaps it is baking cookies with your kids, or doing some meditative
coloring, reading a book, or saying yes to a last minute coffee date with a
friend. Having that white space, or
margin, allows that to happen.
for the last couple of months.
entire life, and goals, and make sure that I am leaving room for white space in
I realized that it was time for another 168 hours assessment.
what we will use those hours for. We can
choose to fill them up to overflowing, or we can choose to leave some of those
hours, empty spaces.
slightly overwhelming. I know that I am
constantly jumping back and forth between tasks, homeschooling the kids,
mothering the kids, blogging, reading for myself, reading to the kids, knitting, journaling, zoning
out in front of the tv at night because it was a particularly difficult evening
routine. Making sure everyone is fed,
the never-ending laundry pile; sports practices, games, theater, piano,
church. It was a slightly stressful list
space? How can you choose what to give
up? I think that personally I feel the
stress of having a toddler, the craziness of being home with three small
order to be the best person I can be, and when I don’t have the white space in
my life, my kids feel it. They can see
my stress, and I don’t want that for them.
Well, I realized that I needed to take a hard look at the tasks that I
am doing daily and see if there were ways that I could streamline some of them.
would be insane to think that would ever happen. I can’t create a schedule and know that we
will stick to it because there are always those urgent needs that come up.
homeschooling instead of jumping around once I get them settled to do some
I notice that when I
get up to change laundry over, or start to make food, or throw dishes in the
dishwasher, my kids tend to take longer at their homeschooling tasks. This throws off our days, making them longer
than they need to be with regards to school.
using my freezer to help out. I can’t
even count the number of times 4pm rolls around and I have nothing ready for
dinner, and end up getting take out because I don’t have time to prepare any of
the whole ingredients I keep in my house before we rush off to our next evening
it has gotten to the point where I need a little extra help so that I can
concentrate on the things that are most important to me with the blog – sharing
my journey and building community.
really want to do in the moment, or it can be just that, white space in your
day, where you are able to spend time with your family, without being concerned
about all the things you *should* be doing.
more white space in your day? What area
do you think you could adjust in order to garner that white space?