Would you rather have a large house or a small house? I have been thinking about this for several years. Ever since I realized that my house is a lot larger than I thought when we bought it 6 years ago. I constantly go back and forth. I love the fact that I have a large house, a room for pretty much any purpose that I could think of. I love that my kids have a huge area to run around in, that I have a large kitchen (since I love to cook so much), and that I can spread out.
What I don’t like? Well, it takes me several days during the week to actually clean the house. I feel like we need a bunch of stuff to fill up the house, or it would look empty. It bothers me. I don’t want to spend so much time cleaning or picking up after my kids, or even having them picking up their own things.
It seems like I spend so much time maintaining “stuff” that I can’t enjoy the rest of life. Obviously that is an over-exaggeration. But, the fact that I spend half of the week cleaning the downstairs, and the other half cleaning the upstairs…well…it concerns me a bit. I moved most of the kids toys out of use the past couple of weeks. They have a total of maybe 8 toys to play with, as many books as they could possibly look at, but only a few toys. They have been better behaved, and have entertained themselves longer with fewer toys. Interesting…
Now, what if I had a very small house? And a larger outdoor space? What if I didn’t have to worry so much about taking care of the house, dealing with the utility costs of a large house? Would I be happier, more fulfilled? Or would I remember my large house and feel like I was missing out? I’m not sure my kids would care. It would be the same box of toys, just in a smaller space, and they would have more outdoor space to run around in…while currently they have our driveway.
That is something that I am constantly thinking about. And unfortunately, this market is not the best market to be thinking such things. We are in a unique situation in that we own some land, and we own a very large house. In order to build on the land, we would have to sell the house. And if we build on the land, we want to build something small and energy efficient. Something that will allow us to live our lives, and not be as concerned about how much we have to spend each month to keep a house running.
The problem with wanting to build something small? The view of others. The perception that we are making unwise decisions because we choose something different. I know I posted about innermost house, but it isn’t feasible with two littles. I mean, obviously it would be if that were the option, but it really isn’t. If we build on our land, it has to be at least 1000sf. We can work around that. But, how do we explain to people that we want the kids to share a bedroom, or that we would rather have more outdoor space instead of a large indoor space?
Clearly, random thoughts are going through my head these days…like every day actually. I would love to hear your thoughts. What is adequate for a family of four? What do you tell family and friends that thinks you are nuts? Would you rather spend time outside, have a smaller mortgage, and a smaller house? Or would you rather have the indoor space? Do you feel tied down?
I am joining in at the barn hop today 🙂