something that I have been thinking about lately – especially with all of my
desire to slow life down a bit. I need
to overcome this fear.
that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent.”
social media and Millennials, of which I am one, albeit on the much older side
looks at it. I am less concerned about
missing out for myself, and much more concerned about my children “missing
as present as it is now. Sure, I had a
Facebook account, in fact I got one soon after Facebook first came out because
I still had my college e-mail address – yes, I had already graduated college
when Facebook first arrived on the scene.
mainly from high school and college whom I never actually talked to. I found myself entrenched in finding out what
everyone was up to – so I deleted my account.
I came back after a while and started a new account…just to again delete
it. Now I use Facebook in a much
different way, it is there for me to use to connect to my readers, but also it
is how almost every community activity/church activity/friend communication is
media, and there I am, trying to stay afloat.
may be missing out began. I think that
perhaps it is a struggle specifically because we homeschool, and I don’t know
many other homeschoolers in our area. I
don’t want my kids to feel left behind even though I know they are totally
well-adjusted little kids that do all the normal little kid things, just not in
a school setting.
think that you (or your kids) are missing out?
on a daily basis, I feel the need to keep up.
I want to make sure that my kids are participating in activities; I want
to make sure they are keeping up with their public school counterparts. I need to make sure that I am following their
interests, while still guiding them to a responsible adulthood.
less likely to enjoy those activities.
There is less time to be a kid.
childhood. It was not very busy. The things I remember most are going to a
family friend’s house on the weekend with my mom, where my brother and I would
run around with other kids, make homemade pizza, drink cocoa in the winter, and
generally have fun – with no set activities.
We made it up as we went along.
skiing. The winters were spent
snowmobiling and ice skating out on a farm pond. I don’t remember any organized activities
until I was in middle school. Yet, here
I am, putting my kids in sports at the age of five.
in sports, and they enjoy it immensely – that is why we have continued. However, I do recognize the differences from
when I was younger. It is more competitive
now. The seasons are longer, they have
more off-season options (that are less like options and more like necessities)
for clinics and camps. It almost seems
like if you don’t put your child in sports to learn them *enough* before 3rd
grade, you can’t put them in sports anymore.
thoughts into account. I can’t have the
kids in three different activities each…first we would never be able to get the
kids to all the places they need to be, and second, we don’t want to.
was theater, it was late work nights and meetings. Of course we can’t slow every aspect of our
lives, but there need to be choices, and you cannot make a choice based on
How do you overcome the fear of missing out?
yesterday, I know that some people thrive in being busy – but those people are
busy on purpose, it is what feeds them, and gives them energy.
was one of those people, now I am not so sure.
She was definitely busier than usual this past fall, and I thought she
was enjoying it, until December when she was done. She still wanted to do her activities because
she saw them as social times, but she didn’t want the commitment. She wanted the freedom of not having a
specific schedule to follow.
choose what our next step will be. I’m
not sure if organized sports are really what we need. It might be a family day of being outside
like Renee and her family, it might be having a planned day of unplugging from technology, perhaps it is letting the kids have more control over
their own schedules – instead of signing them up for the sports and activities
they have done in the past, maybe they create a minecraft group or a book club
or just a group of friends to hang out with whenever, they get to choose.
that is difficult. We are faced with a
constant barrage of “better.” Whether it
is the vacation pictures your friend posted on Facebook, or that Instagram
picture you saw of a child testing for their next belt. Maybe it is that blogger that took an amazing
retreat weekend while you can barely get to the bathroom alone. It could be anything.
living our lives on purpose, we are chasing something that we don’t necessarily
want. Or even if we do want it, we are
disappointed in the small steps that we are making towards that goal when it
seems like it was so utterly easy for someone else to get to achieve.
every day. I know it isn’t popular to
talk about the struggles, but they are there, everyone has them. What may be a struggle for me may be a breeze
for you, and vice versa.
trap. Just because I would love to be
able to knit my kids all sweaters, and I know many wonderful bloggers that
accomplish that over and over again, I need to be happy with doing a few rows
here and there on a table runner. I
should be happy about my own progress without measuring it against anyone
more margin in my life, I realize I need to set my own standards. I should be looking at my life in comparison
to my life last year, and my life five years before that. That is the only measure that matters.
say “oh, I definitely want that,” I need to evaluate it further. I need to look at my life, what direction I
want to go in, and see if that is the right path.
that seemed to drag me along instead of my forging ahead. It is a constant battle to make sure I am
living rightly for me, for my family. My
hope is that over the next several weeks I can come up with a good plan for
moving ahead. As my kids get older, they
will be involved in life and other activities, and I want to make sure I
balance out the structure with the freedom.
I want my kids to experience the choices of life, and learn to make good
decisions. In order for them to succeed,
I also need to learn to make these good decisions.
willing to face the hard facts in my own life.
I need to look at what I want to do and see if this shiny new thing I
saw on Pinterest actually fits in with individual and family goals.
me; one that not everyone will agree with, but hopefully I will be respected
for forging my own way. It is another
part of the journey of life. Taking the
time for my family to slow down is a big part of that
journey and figuring out what is next.
fear of missing out? What are your
strategies to move ahead?