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Thursday, October 23, 2014

{31 Days} Preparing for Baby # 3 - Letting Go of Expectations Part 2

Welcome to my {31 Days} series this year!  We will soon be welcoming baby # 3 and I realized that there is a lot I need to do before that happens!  You can find all the posts in this series here.  Thank you for following along with me.

Last week I talked a little about letting go of expectations.  It was mainly the physical craziness of having a new baby.  Trying to keep up with food and cleaning, making sure to allow myself time to rest and not being hard on myself if I haven’t made yogurt or bread for the week.

As I was thinking more about it, I realized that letting go of expectations can be much more philosophical as well.

I am very much a “crunchy” parent.  I love to clean with vinegar and baking soda, I do not like chemicals in my house, I try to make the most “natural” decisions as possible.

Sometimes the choices you make are not because you want to make those choices, but because you have to make those choices.

When I was pregnant with my oldest, I realized that I wanted a natural birth.  I was not going to have medicine, I went the hypnobirthing route, and I was happy about it.  Of course, I should have realized that nothing seems to go exactly as planned, and after being in active labor for a couple days (yes days), my Dr. and I decided on a caesarean.  This was not at all what I wanted.

However, after I had the caesarean, I still had a beautiful baby girl that I was and am totally in love with. 

For me, the reason natural labor wasn’t working was because I had been in a car accident when I was younger at which time I broke my pelvis/hips/tail bone; with the pelvic issues, I was not going to be able to naturally deliver a baby.  So it was actually by God’s grace that I was unable to “progress” as much as I needed to, we could have had a very large emergency on our hands.

Why am I telling you this?  Well, the biggest reason is to empower you to let things come as they may.

Was it difficult to end up having a C-section after I had spent so much time centering myself on a natural birth?  Absolutely.  Does it mean that I failed as a mother?  Absolutely not.

I think that we need to give ourselves grace in these situations.  Now, I am not saying that every person out there should have a C-section; that is a little ridiculous, especially with the risks involved – it is major surgery after all.  However, if you end up having one, I think that you should concentrate on the fact that you have a new baby, and enjoy that.

We, as mamas, have a tendency to want everything to go the “right” way, and when it doesn’t, we seem to beat ourselves up, and try and do better the next time.  I think that can get in the way of what is truly important.  That we have been given these precious little people to care for and nurture and raise into adulthood.

Just as we do not want others expectations of our lives to impact our family, we have to be aware of our own expectations, and letting them go once in a while for the betterment of our families.

Is there an expectation that you place on yourself with regards to parenting or family that you need to let go of?

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

{31 Days} Preparing for Baby # 3 - Knitting

Welcome to my {31 Days} series this year!  We will soon be welcoming baby # 3 and I realized that there is a lot I need to do before that happens!  You can find all the posts in this series here.  Thank you for following along with me.

Oh, you thought I was going to show you a finished sleep sack this week?  Yeah, so did I!

Unfortunately, as I mentioned on Monday my kids and husband decided that this weekend/week would be a perfect time to get sick!

I think the fact that I have been watching so much news lately it definitely freaked me out to have fevers in the house.  And the running back and forth from the bathroom is never a fun thing.  Hopefully they are all on the mend!  

My plan had been to finish the sleep sack this weekend, but that did not happen.  However, I did make some progress that I am happy about!

I have been trying to figure out how long it should be, and then if I should be narrowing it at the top, or weaving in some sort of cord to tie it up.  I'm not sure how I feel with a baby having access to a probably will decrease the stitches and narrow the top  so it stays on.

My reading hasn't progressed either, unfortunately.  I am going to have to pick it up though, because all of my current reads are library books, and for some reason they do not let you keep them as long as you want!

What are you working on this week?

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

{31 Days} Preparing for Baby # 3 - Moving the Playroom

Welcome to my {31 Days} series this year!  We will soon be welcoming baby # 3 and I realized that there is a lot I need to do before that happens!  You can find all the posts in this series here.  Thank you for following along with me.

If you are a regular reader of Townsend House, you will know that I like to rearrange our rooms…often.  There are days that my husband will come home from work and the living room is moved, our bedroom is moved, and the toy room is moved.  I feel like we have some extra space in our house (not always a bad thing), but I never know what to do with it.  So I move things.

After I came to grips with the supposed craziness (so people keep telling me) of having a third child, and knowing we would be having this little one in late fall, I knew that I would need to make some changes to our rooms.

For a while now, we had the kids’ playroom upstairs.  My kids share a bedroom (they love it, don’t worry), and so we don’t have any toys in their room.  Well, they are not supposed to have toys in their bedroom, but a few tend to make their way there regardless of what I do.  Because I let the kids have free reign of the art supplies most of the time, it works to have a separate space available to keep all of their toys.

I knew that after coming home with a new baby, I would not want to be running up and downstairs all the time.  The main reason for this is because I have to have a caesarean due to a car accident when I was younger (apparently fractures in your pelvis/tail bone/hips are not conducive to natural child birth).  I know how I react to surgery; I know that I will be downstairs most of the day.  So the best option was to move the playroom downstairs again.

I think this will help for a couple of reasons.  First, if the kids are going to be loud, I would prefer them to do it in one part of the house.  Obviously I hope that the newest little one will be a heavy sleeper, but I can definitely think of times when the baby may need a little more quiet time to decompress, so having the upstairs relatively toy free will allow this.

Secondly, I know that the kids like to be near me most of the day, and if I am downstairs and their toys are upstairs, they will constantly be calling me to help them with something, and I don’t know if I will be able to keep going up and down the stairs, at least in the beginning.

Finally, our house is relatively cool in the winter, and we block off rooms to keep sections of the house as warm as possible.  The room that had been their playroom is the coldest room in the house, not great for playing, but very good for the husband’s office/exercise room. 

I think that this is going to be a small step in making my life a little bit easier.  Now, whether or not it will stay that way once the weather is warm again?  I’m not sure.  I can definitely foresee a time in the not so distant future when we will need one of these “extra” rooms as another bedroom.  Then I am not sure what we will do.  Hopefully that won’t be for a while though!

Have you made significant layout changes to your home when welcoming a new little one?  

Monday, October 20, 2014

{31 Days} Preparing for Baby # 3 - Expect the Unexpected!

Welcome to my {31 Days} series this year!  We will soon be welcoming baby # 3 and I realized that there is a lot I need to do before that happens!  You can find all the posts in this series here.  Thank you for following along with me.

I think that the title of this post should be the theme for any pregnancy.  Expect the unexpected!  That is certainly how I am feeling today.

You may have noticed that I did not post on Saturday.  Or maybe you didn’t notice…but now you will because I just mentioned it.  I had planned to put up a cute little graphic or something funny, but it just did not happen!

Why?  Well, of course that would be because my regular life came into play.  You see, it seems both of my children and husband decided this would be a great weekend to get sick. 

Sick, yes, sick.  Sick just a little while before my due date.  Sick enough to know that they will not be going with me to my appointments this week.

OK it isn’t really that dramatic.  But, when fevers are involved, it tends to send me into the high stress zone.  My kids are generally quite healthy, and now they are not.  I think after I freaked out for a good long while – “what if I go into labor and everyone is sick?!”  I just accepted that it was to be so.

Instead of spending a huge amount of time getting ready for baby, I spent a huge amount of time just being mama.  The cuddly mama that takes care of her babies.  It may not have been what I had planned for the weekend, but it was still nice to have that time with my kiddos.

Now, let us all hope that they will be totally well before I have to go have this new little one!

How was your weekend?  Anything unexpected happen?

Shark Tank Meets Main Street - US Cellular

One of my husband’s favorite shows is Shark Tank.  I think there is something about having a product or idea and being able to work at your passion and be your own boss that appeals to everyone.  It is part of the American Dream, isn’t it; to be your own boss and an entrepreneur?

Last year, US Cellular launched the “Spotlight on America’s Backbone” contest which invited small businesses in the company’s footprint to enter to win free advertising, cash, and a year of wireless service to help grow their business.  

To further show their commitment to business owners, U.S. Cellular expanded on that this year and gave consumers more access to tools and support to help grow their business or make their entrepreneurial dreams come true by working with ABC’s “Shark Tank.”

Currently there is an amazing sweepstakes, open for entry now!

This sweepstakes will provide customers in the U.S. Cellular footprint the opportunity to gain unprecedented access to the casting call process, hear tips and advice from other small business owners.

One lucky winner will win an exclusive behind-the-scenes Shark Tank experience, which includes a VIP seat during the entire pitch process in LA, lunch with the casting team and opportunities to engage the Sharks throughout the day to ask any burning questions, including how he/she can further their business if the winner is a business owner.

Along with the Sweepstakes, consumers can visit  to view custom content that will cover both a behind-the-scenes look at the Shark Tank casting process, what happens after you get funded, along with stories from real entrepreneurs.

US Cellular is committed to the people and businesses in their markets.  Providing access to Shark Tank is just one way the company shows their commitment to the communities US Cellular services.

Winners will be selected between November 1st and November 14th.  The announcement of the winner will be between November 17th and November 21st.

Don’t forget to download the Parent Child Agreement and help your kids make smart decisions about technology!

Do you have an amazing business idea?   Is this the push you need to perhaps throw your product or idea into the ring?  What is holding you back?

I am part of the US Cellular Blogger Brigade and was compensated for this post.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Healthy Habits featuring LISTERINE

I participated in an Influencer Activation on behalf of Influence Central for LISTERINE. I received samples for this review and a promotional item to thank me for participating.

As parents we are constantly looking for ways to demonstrate healthy living for our children.  A lot of it comes down to example.  When my kids see me going outside to do yard work, or go for a walk, or work in the garden, they see that as something that they should be doing as well.

One of their favorite outside activities is riding bikes.  Every day that they can get outside and ride bikes is a great day for them - and for me!  It also brings me back to my own childhood (especially since I live on the same street I grew up on!).

Our healthy habits also extend to oral health.  As the daughter of a dental hygienist, my brother and I were taught from a very young age the importance of healthy teeth and gums.  It helps that my mom still stresses that importance to her grandchildren!

Every night before bed, part of their routine is to floss and brush their teeth.  They love it.  For some reason, something that seems so difficult for adults (flossing teeth) is a great game for my children.  Of course they aren’t pros at it, and I end up having to floss their teeth for the most part, but they do enjoy it!

I especially like using the LISTERINE Gentle Gum Care Floss for my kids.  I am less likely to cut into their gums, and the fact that it is woven is a huge bonus.  The kids love the flavor, and think they are getting some sort of treat.  It is soft and springy and removes plaque effectively – which is very important to this Mama!

If we continue to keep the kids on the track of healthy living, it is going to be so much easier for them as they grow older.  They will already have these healthy habits instilled in them.  Oral health, and overall health, is something that we all need to take seriously.  We can all take control of our health, and starting young is the best way!

If you are looking for where LISTERINE products are sold, check here.  Also, don't forget to check out the LISTERINE YouTube page featuring the Healthy Habit Heroes video series.

What are some of your healthy habits?  Do your kids like flossing as much as mine do?

31 Days: Sunday Quotes

Welcome to my {31 Days} series this year!  We will soon be welcoming baby # 3 and I realized that there is a lot I need to do before that happens!  You can find all the posts in this series here.  Thank you for following along with me.

First child eats dirt.  Parent calls doctor.  Second child eats dirt.  Parent cleans out mouth.  Third child eats dirt.  Parent wonders if she really needs to feed him lunch.