This is not our first baby – you might have noticed that. This is our third baby. And our two older children are six and four. I think this presents a couple different issues then when I went from one to two children and my oldest was just two years old.
We are definitely in a routine of life, where the kids know what we expect of them, and they know how to get along with one another (or not). They have their rhythms, their toys, and their together and separate time. Adding a new baby to the mix is definitely going to be a different experience.
They are both extremely excited about the new baby, and I fully believe that they are going to be huge helpers to me.
However, I don’t want them to feel like they are being left out once a new baby comes along. A new baby has a tendency to take all of your attention away. They need to be fed and changed and cuddled constantly it seems.
I decided that I need to do something to help the kids to adjust. What we decided on is one-on-one dates with daddy and mama.
We don’t typically do a lot of one-on-one time, mainly because my husband works during the day, and the weekends tend to be whole family togetherness instead of separate times for everyone. But, I want the kids to still feel how important they are to us, and especially to me, after the new baby comes.
I thought that I would try and alternate Saturday mornings leading up to the birth of the new baby. I will spend a little one on one time with each child, and Matt will take the other one. It should be interesting to see how they enjoy this, and if we can figure out a way to keep it up after the new baby arrives!
These are not going to be expensive outings. They will most likely be going to the library, or perhaps down to our local doughnut shop for a warm doughnut. I don’t want them to expect that every time we have one-on-one time that we will buy something, I want them to realize that this time is about quality and talking and connecting with one another. I think that it will be great! We shall see!
Do you have one-on-one dates with your kids? How does it work as the number of children outnumbers the number of parents?