It is an interesting thing, putting your personal goals up for the entire world to see. It definitely helps in the way of accountability. I mean, who wants to put up a bunch of goals only to not finish them? Well, I would like to say that isn’t me, but to be honest, I rarely ever complete all of my “goals for the year.” I am definitely learning that it is ok to not accomplish all of my goals. And realizing some goals take a lot longer than a year to accomplish.
My personal goals are really important to me this year. Maybe because they are for my own well being, and not contingent on another’s actions. That is key. Not letting your goals be altered by any other person. These are your goals. Without further ado, personal goals!
This is an important one. It seems like every day that goes by, more technology is available to take my mind away from what is important. Do I really need to see every update on Facebook? No. Is it easy to get sucked into every update on Facebook? Absolutely! It isn’t just Facebook though, it is about anything that takes me away from the present. I have so.many.things. that I want to accomplish, it is easy to get wrapped up in that and forget that I am also supposed to be living my life. My kids are little now still, but I see how fast every year has been going, I want to be present for everything. I don’t want life to pass by in a blur. I’m sure many of you mamas can relate!
Last year I had the crazy idea to read 100 books in 2013. I have no idea if I actually finished that goal. About 4 months into the year I stopped logging my books in Goodreads as soon as I finished them. When you finish a book in the middle of the night, logging it online, or even putting in on a paper list, is not a top priority. So in addition to reading 100 books this year, I would like to actually log all of the books I read. I also hope to read a lot of non-fiction. It is easy for me to read a novel; I get lost in the story and want to finish it as soon as possible. With non-fiction, it typically makes me question my own life and choices, and therefore takes a lot longer to complete. So far this year I started the Divergent series and also read Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson. I think that if I read a fiction book, and then a non-fiction book, maybe I can increase my non-fiction reading.
Self-care is a funny thing. It obviously is something that is selfish, but it is also something that is so needed for every person (especially mamas!). For the first several years of motherhood I put everything I had into my kids. I didn’t take care of myself, and it was evident to me that I needed to. This past year I spent a lot more time trying to center myself, figuring out what I needed to do to make my life as a stay at home mama to work. I realized that taking time for myself was important. However, as a mama of littles it seemed next to impossible to find that time. That is when I realized my desire to wake up early in the morning wasn’t just a desire, it was a necessity.
Over the past several weeks, maybe even months, I have let myself fall away from that practice of getting up early, but I definitely still need it. I can’t expect to find time during the day homeschooling children who no longer nap. No matter how well they play by themselves, I realize that as soon as they are happy and playing independently, and I sit down to do my own thing, there will be a crisis. Maybe I am the only person this happens to, but I’m assuming I’m not the only one. If I am, please give me your tips!
Taking the time to take care of myself is important. It is hard work being present all day with my kids, and not taking any time for myself. And by the end of the day I am completely spent, and feel like I must just zone out. So early mornings it is! Reflecting on the previous day and planning for a new day as well as journaling and having my quiet time is important, and I need to get back into it. It feeds my soul and prepares me for the day ahead. The days when I am up early and accomplish all I feel like I need to before starting breakfast for the kids (you know, like drinking my pot of coffee!), I am better off, and my kids are better off.
What about you? Do you have important personal goals you would like to accomplish this year? Any good books that you think I should put on my list?