For a very long time after having my first child, I didn’t
think so much about me. I was so
consumed with my daughter, that I didn’t even know how to deal with it. Out went my normal routines of getting up,
getting dressed, going to work, rinse and repeat. Now, every day was different.
think so much about me. I was so
consumed with my daughter, that I didn’t even know how to deal with it. Out went my normal routines of getting up,
getting dressed, going to work, rinse and repeat. Now, every day was different.
When we added number two, the personal time seemed to
completely disappear. Any idea of who I
was seemed to be put on the back burner, and now I was “mom;” needed by
everyone.
completely disappear. Any idea of who I
was seemed to be put on the back burner, and now I was “mom;” needed by
everyone.
It is a somewhat heady feeling, knowing that you are the
provider. But, after a while, you can
forget you completely, and be only the provider.
provider. But, after a while, you can
forget you completely, and be only the provider.
Perhaps it is just me.
However, if you are like me, putting
everyone before yourself, then I might be able to encourage you to put yourself
first some of the time.
Why is
self-care important?
self-care important?
I think there are many reasons, but it mainly comes down to
making sure you are healthy, for yourself, for your family.
making sure you are healthy, for yourself, for your family.
Oftentimes we can go go go, this isn’t specific to mamas
either, and we forget that we need to take a break and replenish
ourselves. We need to take the time to
center ourselves on our goals, to know what our plan is, but to not work so
hard at staying on task that we miss the right now.
either, and we forget that we need to take a break and replenish
ourselves. We need to take the time to
center ourselves on our goals, to know what our plan is, but to not work so
hard at staying on task that we miss the right now.
Stress is a huge issue in our world today. Everyone is stressed about something, their
job, their family, finances. All that
stress is made much worse when we stop taking time for ourselves, when we don’t
eat the proper foods to nourish our bodies, when we don’t take time for
meditation and stillness, time in nature.
job, their family, finances. All that
stress is made much worse when we stop taking time for ourselves, when we don’t
eat the proper foods to nourish our bodies, when we don’t take time for
meditation and stillness, time in nature.
Why is self-care important?
Because it provides us with a sense of who we really are instead of
being lost in our roles. It helps us to
move in the right and proper direction, not always seamlessly, but in a calmer
manner, knowing our limits.
Because it provides us with a sense of who we really are instead of
being lost in our roles. It helps us to
move in the right and proper direction, not always seamlessly, but in a calmer
manner, knowing our limits.
Do you
always put others needs before your own?
Why?
always put others needs before your own?
Why?
I know that I need to make sure my family is taken care of.
With three little ones that need me for most things, I know
that the urgent will often come up, but I still need to make time for myself,
to recharge.
that the urgent will often come up, but I still need to make time for myself,
to recharge.
What is
one thing that you have been putting off doing because you “don’t have the
time”? Can you make time today to do
that one thing?
one thing that you have been putting off doing because you “don’t have the
time”? Can you make time today to do
that one thing?
Jessica Abegg says
October 2, 2015 at 7:53 pmI almost feel lucky, that if I were to put everyone else's in my households needs before mine it wouldn't be that bad – because it's just me, my Mister, and the dogs. But, really, the dogs are needy (and when they need, they need *right nowwwwwww* – the little guy will yell it so!) and the Mister is needy without being horribly so. However, I know that trying to take care of everyone else only does no good. Trying to only do things for everyone else (because it's what you're "supposed" to do) and not taking time for yourself is no good. At all.
Jessica @ Barefoot by the Sea says
October 2, 2015 at 12:17 pmI absolutely agree it's so easy to put our own needs on the back burner! I always thought as my kids got older, their needs would require less time but I've come to realize they just change! I think I'd like to spend more time getting pedicures but for now I opt for self treatment when I can snag a few extra minutes 🙂 sorry for the deleted comment, I tried to dictate a comment and it was full of grammar issues! Thanks iphone for the autocorrect! 😉
Heather says
October 2, 2015 at 12:35 pmPedicures! Yes, I can definitely be down with that…and can't remember the last time I had one 🙂