few weeks. It wasn’t my original purpose
to take some time off from blogging, but it happened, and I am enjoying the
break. Giving myself a little bit of
time off has helped me realize how much I strive for a stress free holiday.
time of year. From Thanksgiving right
through to the New Year, I love every minute of it. However, it is also very easy to have it fraught
with stress and anxiety. I want to enjoy
the holidays; I don’t want to be stressed out during the holidays.
It is more fun to not stress, isn’t it?
for me. Trying to do every little thing,
trying to make sure we get to all of the parties, make all the cookies, go-go-go.
get sick, and it is often on Christmas Day.
How am I supposed to enjoy Christmas with my family when I am sick as a
dog and want to go back to bed? Not fun!
didn’t have a Christmas dinner that year.
I had had enough. I needed a
change in my holiday season.
myself to make the holiday perfect for my kids and my family, and I also had to
let go of the expectations of everyone outside my immediate family as to what
we should be doing during the holiday season.
catalyst for me to make a broader change in my whole life.
happy or unhappy.
or did not do was the cause of people’s happiness. It sounds like a very conceited thing to me
now, but I did feel that way. It was my
people pleasing nature that caused me to want to make sure everyone else was
happy and satisfied, leaving nothing left for me and my family at the end of
cannot make people happy, everyone is responsible for their own happiness, it
is a choice, and I was not happy being sick and stressed out on Christmas for
the 5th year in a row.
may not relieve all the stress in your holiday.
There are still times when I am running around like a crazy person
trying to get something done, or get to a party, or realizing that we have
three basketball games on Saturday instead of the two I had planned.
stress melt away.
season special to you?
I what one dish we had to have at Thanksgiving – that without that dish it
wouldn’t be Thanksgiving. And she did
something similar when it came to Christmas.
What is the one thing that made Christmas, Christmas?
Eve open house.
house after the Christmas Eve service at our church. There was always a ton of food and sweets,
and everyone piling into the house to hang out.
They are some of my fondest memories of growing up, and it is the one
thing that I have wanted to do since starting my own family.
not lost on me – especially when factoring in all of the other activities.
would need to do to make Christmas special for our family. Then I listed everything else that we did
during the holiday season.
games, the kids’ Christmas concert. But then there was everything else.
the items that we liked to do, but were not really necessary, and would instead
cause more stress throughout the holiday season.
activities have become traditions in your own family, that you may feel bad
saying no to, but if doing those activities takes away from your own joy and
happiness during the holiday season perhaps it is time to speak up about it.
that took me a long time to learn, but I am happier now for it, and so is my
to the next it ends up not being fun. I
want Christmas to be fun and memorable for my kids, and I don’t think that
overwhelming ourselves with activities is how to do that. I think simple traditions, hot cocoa,
decorating cookies, making a gingerbread house, celebrating Advent – those are
the types of activities I want my kids to remember.
parties or extra activities, but it is about family, and togetherness and
really enjoying that time together.
during the holiday season? What is one
thing that you would like to say no to this year and why?